This past week marked 10 years living in our home. 10 years. Typically when these events arrive I’ll ask myself, “Where did the time go?” Today, however, I’m amazed by what the past 10 years has placed in my life. I’m asking myself, “How did all that fit into 10 years?” 10 years ago John and I moved in with 2 cats and barely enough belongings to fill the rooms. Now our home is full with 2 kids and pets.
We’ve experienced life’s greatest moments through the births of Elliot and Sydney. We’ve felt the deepest sadness life can bring in saying good-bye to my in-laws. This house is where my kids learned to walk. This street is where they learned to ride 2-wheeled bikes. This is our home.
I’m feeling nostalgic. I’m also again reminded that life happens outside of what I have planned. As I have written before, this geographical location isn’t what I envisioned for my life. I’m learning though to yield to what life is providing to me instead of fighting it in an attempt to get what I think I need. It’s in those moments of letting go, when I “live and let live” that I experience meaning and happiness.
Living here, in this house and in this neighborhood has given me beyond what I could dream up for myself. I’ve met some awesome friends that have encouraged and inspired me, challenged me; they’ve helped me grow. I’m learning to let them know me too. And, I can only hope I am encouraging them.
This weekend I was invited to a girls’ night in. We played Bunco and we laughed and we laughed. All of us come from different backgrounds and grew up in various locations. We are laced together in this neighborhood and share the common bond of motherhood. For those few hours we socialized and shared life. The evening unfolded just the way it was meant to be. It was wonderful.
This morning I rewatched a video of Jimmy Valvano's 1993 ESPY Speech when he accepted the Arthur Ashe Award for Courage. He was nearing the end of his life due to cancer. His speech is remarkable. In it he talks about 3 things we should all do every day of our lives.
- Laugh: we should laugh
- Think: spend some time in thought
- Cry: have emotions move to tears (could be happiness)
You can watch the video yourself to hear why these 3 things are important. I promise you will be inspired.
It is my hope that in the next 10 years I’ll be able to look back and be proud of the person I grow into. For me life is a process. I’ll never be finished growing and learning. I don’t want to be finished. I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I just hope today I’m a little bit better than I was yesterday. Imperfect progress.
Thanks for reading.